What Should I Do if I’m Divorcing a Narcissist?

Divorce is almost always a complex and taxing legal issue. Unfortunately, if you find yourself divorcing a narcissist, you can expect the matter to be even more draining than other divorces. That said, there are things you can do to help move the process along as smoothly as possible and get to a better place in your life. Read on to learn more about divorcing a narcissist and how a Los Angeles divorce attorney from our legal team can help you through the process.

What should I do if I’m divorcing a narcissist?

The thing about narcissists is that they want control over others, while maintaining their image as the “sane, rational, and clear-thinking” one more than anything else. For this reason, they’ll often do anything they can to maintain a connection with you, all while trying to get you to snap, often at the most inopportune times. If you’re in a divorce with a narcissist, try to keep the following in mind:

• Keep a cool head. Narcissists will typically do everything they can to get you to lose your cool. Keep in mind, however, that you are not required, at all, to answer phone calls, text messages, or take the bait in any way. Remember, this is exactly what you want. It’s always best to simply be the bigger person and ignore these attempts.
• You will most likely have to litigate. Narcissists want control over the situation, and they also want nothing more than to be heard. For this reason, they often end up taking their divorce to court and doing everything in their power to make you look like the “bad guy.” Narcissists often try to string out the process for as long as possible. That said, if mediation is an option, it’s worth considering, especially with a competent attorney in your corner who can protect you and your interests.
• Only speak to or deal with your spouse when necessary. Don’t stoop to their level. The more you stay engaged, the more satisfaction you’re giving them.

If you have any other questions about divorcing a narcissist or how our legal team can help you through the divorce process with a difficult spouse, please don’t hesitate to give us a call today.